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Why Can’t I Get A Girl To Go Out With Me?

If you’ve ever wondered, “Why can’t I get a girl to go out with me?”, you’re not alone.  It happens to every guy at some point in his life–you meet an amazing woman who instantly captures your interest. The only problem is, she doesn’t feel the same way.

You think you’re a ‘great catch’, but she’s indifferent at best, antagonistic at worst. You’ve got great plans for this relationship, but none of them can happen until she agrees to go out with you.

Here’s the bad news–not every woman thinks you’re the man of her dreams. That’s just the honest, realistic truth.

More importantly, no matter how amazing you think she is there’s no way you can make her want to go out with you. In fact, if you’ve asked her more than a few times with no luck, it’s time to move on.  Regardless of how bad you want something to happen it’s not going to, and you risk alienating her further by making a nuisance of yourself.

Let’s look at some common reasons you can’t get a woman to date you.

It’s Not You, It’s Her

It may sound like small consolation if you can’t get a woman to go out with you, but chances are good that her rejection has nothing to do with you and everything to do with her. Men typically react to female disinterest as if it were a binding referendum on their desirability.

The reality is usually that your looks, wealth, sexual prowess, or charm have nothing to do with it. In any case, there’s no one that is ‘universally desirable’ to the opposite sex so even if she is ‘just not attracted to you’ it’s important to not take it personally.

It shouldn’t come as a shock that much of the attraction between men and women comes down to ‘chemistry’. That’s a very ambiguous term for a quality that is almost impossible to quantify.

You’ve no doubt met very attractive and perfectly nice women that just ‘didn’t do it for you’? The same thing works in reverse. Assuming that you’ve got a handle on the basics like hygiene, good manners, etc., if a woman just isn’t interested, it’s probably a lack of chemistry.

Other Reasons She’s Blowing You Off

If her lack of desire isn’t a matter of ‘chemistry deficiency’, there’s any number of other reasons why she won’t go out with you. She may think you’re ‘too nice’ or, in other words, a ‘doormat’. Women find this very unattractive.

You may be trying too hard with her and not picking up on her ‘cues’. No one wants to be with someone that is so ‘into themselves’ that they don’t notice the wants or needs of anyone else.  Alternatively, you may be ‘too transparent’ and she can see right through your romantic overtures and realizes that it’s nothing more than lust or infatuation.

There are still other far more practical reasons that a woman might not be interested in dating. She could have a boyfriend.  She may have just ended a serious relationship and isn’t ready to get back into dating.  She may also have some external work or family stress that’s distracting her.

A woman might also use any of these as an ‘excuse’ to avoid having to tell you that she finds you boring and/or unattractive. The truth is, it could be just about any other reason imaginable, logical or otherwise.

So What Do You Do Now To Get Her To Go Out With You?

The best thing to do is to focus on becoming the best version of you that you possibly can.  One way to do this is to invest in a program like the Girlfriend Activation System (GFAS) which teaches guys how to become the type of man that naturally attracts women, so you can not only get the girl you want to go out with you, but also turn her into a long-term committed girlfriend if that’s the type of relationship you want.  You can learn more about GFAS by clicking here.

The best advice is to keep things in perspective: every man gets the ‘cold shoulder’ at some point in his life. The resilient ones quickly learn that it should have no bearing on their self-worth or optimism for the future.

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First Date Conversation Without Desperation

First Date Conversation Without Desperation

I met a very wise man named Arthur a few weeks ago at our company party. We were celebrating one of our biggest years in history so as you can tell it was a festive blow out.

I had seen Arthur a few times around the office. He is in his late forties, single and fit. Hmmmm…I thought. Why were there three gorgeous women around him for more than two hours at the party? Could he have money? Far from it. Arthur is a mid-level broker so I can assure you his income is much less than half what I earn every year. I needed to know what his secret was. “Arthur,” I laughed throwing my arm around him leading us away from the blonde, brunette and redhead.

“What’s your secret?”

He smiled. “Young man, I suspect you’re wondering why three ladies nearly half my age are clinging to me for hours,” he asked. “There are three things you need to know about first date conversation…”

“First, never, ever talk about yourself in the first five minutes of conversation. Women suspect men are hard-wired for selfishness. It’s true you know. We are one of the most selfish beings on the planet. So my first tip is to focus on their beauty by asking questions. Ones that focus purely on their secret. Demand that she reveal her trick to staying so young-looking. This will cause her to blush and laugh.

Second, and this is vital, tell her a story about something you noticed when you first saw her. Make it curious as if there’s something genuinely sweet about how she looks which as far more provocative than any other woman in the room.

Third, laughter is the only thing that matters. Tell her about a time in your life when you made a big, fat mistake. Make it sound as if you were hoping to impress a woman but realized her beauty made you nervous. The more humility you can express the better. Have a few stories thought through so that you can recite them without trying to impress. Women absolutely adore men who do not take themselves too seriously.”

As Arthur returned to his ladies, I watched him. He made them laugh for what seemed like hours. As the party ended, I noticed he was walking to his car with one of them holding hands. It was obvious to me he knew the exact magic I needed to boost my confidence.

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Benefits of Online Dating

Remember the days when you had to go to your nearest night club to search for your perfect match? Well, gone are those days. Today, technology has provided newer and better ways of find true love. You can easily find a life partner at the comfort of your home through a computer. This is known as online dating.

Other than that, there are many benefits of online dating. I will bring you up to speed with some of the benefits of online dating.

1. Safety
We are all anonymous to everyone until we decide not to be. With online dating, you do not have to give the correct personal details that may put your security in jeopardy. In addition, you can choose who you want to speak to and for how long you want to hold the conversation. You no longer have to worry about strangers stalking you at your home or making late night calls. If you get a stalker whom you are not interested in, you can easily block or report him/her for harassing you.

2. Cheap way to find your match
Most dating sites are free to sign up. In addition, they do not charge you for using their services until you find and contact your perfect match. This is much cheaper than going to the bar each night and spending money to buy drinks just to meet people.

3. Your choice
With online dating, you pick the perfect person from the millions in the dating pool. You can never get those odds you get in a bar. Furthermore, you have the choice to pick your desired age, height, complexion and anything else you looking for in your dream partner.

4. Limits your fear of rejection
Most people, especially women find it difficult to approach a guy due to fear of rejection. Online dating tries to eliminate this fear by allowing you to send private messages before meeting them. Therefore, you no longer have to worry about rejection. If one fails to respond, it is not a big deal as there are a lot of people out there waiting for you to contact them.
These are just some of the many benefits you will enjoy by signing up to online dating sites.

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How to Have a Successful Happy Marriage

The greatest success and joy in life comes from a happy marriage where a couple love each other in action and thoughts, unselfishly put their spouse’s concerns over their own and remains committed no matter the trials that life inevitably throws at us all. A happy marriage means both of you are satisfied with your relationship. Nowadays people are not satisfied with their marriages though they expected to live a happy live when they got married. But in reality they found sorrow, depression, sadness and frustration. So the question is, is marriage sadness or happiness? Well, studies have shown that 9 out of 10 marriages are in trouble and that’s why we see a number of divorces increasing every day. But the good news is there are ways on how to have a successful happy marriage. Read on to find out, they include:

Knowing your partner well
Identifying your partner’s tastes is one of the best ways of making a happy marriage. Your marriage can be shaped according to each other’s preferences. When you know your spouse dislikes, you will refrain from doing them because it may lead to distress in your partner. This will assure your spouse that you are considerate of her or him, a factor that is of great importance to achieving successful marriage.

Hold your tongue
Always speak kind words to your partner, make compliments and thank her or him daily. Learn to hold your tongue; there should not be any verbal, physical or emotional abuse in marriage. In case you are angry, irritated or frustrated learn to take time to ‘cool off’ until when you can react maturely and appropriately after regaining.

Share household chores
This is an amazing secret to making a happy marriage. A couple that shares domestic chores makes things easy for each other to promote peace and happiness in their marriage. You can even go far as making a list of what to be done and take some portion to be your responsibility. It is unfair to burden your spouse with all the work. Don’t confuse harmony in your marriage with agreeing everything your spouse tells you. You don’t have to agree on everything to enjoy your marriage but some things are crucial and others are small but they all converge in building harmonious marriage.

Go for date nights
Men, when was the last time you took your wife out on a date? Do spare some time and take your wife on a date night? Moreover, during such date nights, you need to participate in entertainment that adds value to your marriage in terms of happiness. Make time for one another, laugh, talk, listen, express affection and just be together. Do this consistently for the best results.

Many happy couples have proved the aforementioned ways as effective in developing a successful happy marriage.

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Maria and Rick’s Online Dating Success Story

Online dating has changed lives everywhere. Many people do not have time to find love. Internet dating sites have allowed people the convenience of finding love at first click. There are a lot of successful relationships that come out of online dating sites. Here is the story behind how a couple from New Hampshire met and fell in love online.

The Start to an Internet Dating Success Story

A woman named Maria Smith had given up on finding love. She was born in a small town in the state of New Hampshire. As a 31 year old kindergarten teacher, she thought that finding love was hopeless. Blind dates and constant fix up from friends left her feeling defeated and alone. One day, she was using her laptop to read some news and she was an advertisement for an online dating site. She was skeptical at first because she had heard mixed reactions to using the Internet to meet people.

After a few minutes of staring at her computer screen, she decided to take a chance and began to complete her profile. Once she completed it, she decided to go and browse through the list of men in her area. She found one for a guy named Rick. Rick was a 35 year old state trooper from Concord, NH. He included some jokes about being a cop that immediately caught her eye and made her laugh. She messaged Rick and forgot about it. A week later, Rick responded to her and apologized for not getting back to her sooner.

The Initial Meeting between Rick and Maria

Maria responded to Rick’s message and the two began to chat via text and video chat. Over time, Maria found that she was becoming more and more attached to her laptop and cell phone because she could not wait for Rick to contact her. On October 3, 2009, the two met face-to-face. Rick took Maria to his favorite place which was a Boston Celtics game. Maria never told him that she was a fan, but the chemistry between the two became even more undeniable after that. Six months later, Rick and some of his colleagues surprised Maria in front of the school where she taught and he proposed to her in front of her students. She immediately said yes and the couple got married on October 3, 2010 on the anniversary of their first date.

The Happily Ever They Both Deserve So Much

Maria and Rick are the epitome of an online dating success story. They have been married for four years and have three small children. They wholeheartedly believe that the website that they used is the only reason why they are so happy and in love today. If anyone can learn anything from these two, it is that you should always take a chance on love. You never know what will happen next.